The love of a child

I keep running notes of things my kids say that I find sweet, cute, or humorous. I recently looked over it, and found that each of them made statements about their love for me at around 4 years of age.

Their statements say so much about them each, individually.

There's Will. Short, sweet, and to the point:

"Mom, I just love you."

There's Charlie. Also sweet, but with a little tendency toward hyperbole and brown-nosing.

"I'm going to love you forever. I'm not ever, ever, ever not going to love you."

There's Joe. Who shows love in his own unique way. With math.

"I love you 50,000 plus 50,000!"

And there's Helen. Who's just so . . . Helen.

"Mom, I love you every day. But sometimes I don't love you."

And, of course, I love them all (and their uniqueness) more than words could ever express.

Don't stop believing (please!)

Yesterday the kids were talking about who was oldest (Charlie claims that title by less than a minute).

I wasn't really paying much attention, but I heard someone disagree and say, "No, Mommy is the oldest in our family."

And then Joe retorted that Mommy is not the oldest person in the world though. He then wondered out loud whether that would be Jesus or Santa Claus, and asked me how old Santa Claus is.

That's when Charlie said that Santa Claus "isn't any old. Because there's no such thing as Santa Claus."

I can't believe it. He didn't ask whether Santa Claus is real. He just matter-of-factly stated it. The kid hasn't even been visited by the tooth fairy yet. He can't be old enough to stop believing.

I did the only thing I could think of in the situation. I started yelling at them all for sitting around and talking instead of doing the chores I had assigned to them.

That distracted them for the moment. But I guess we'll have to bring it up sometime so he doesn't ruin it for the rest of the kids. At least the little ones. Although I'm feeling the most sad for Joe -- I think he'd believe for another 10 years if Charlie would let him, but I don't think he will.

Life and Death

The kids are at Vacation Bible School every evening this week. It's a good thing (and not just because Cort and I are enjoying our evenings out together - although we definitely are!).

This conversation tells me we need to be a little more specific when explaining some of the finer concepts of life after death. Clearly we can't let Will get all his facts from his sister.

Will: "Mom, what happens when you get to the last number?"

Me: "What is the last number?"

Will: "I don't know. But what happens when you get there?"

Me (as it dawns on me what he is talking about): "Well, then you die and go to heaven."

Helen: "Like our doggies died and went to heaven?"

Me: "Yes."

Will: "So we are going to be doggies????"

Me: "No. You will still be Will. You will just go to heaven when you die like our dogs went to heaven when they died."

Will: "But I don't want to go to heaven. I want to go places."

Me: "Um, well, heaven is a place. And it's a really nice place. You get to be with God."

Will: "But when you die, you can't walk. So how do I go to heaven and places if I can't walk?

Helen: "I think you jump."

Will: "Oh. Yeah. You just jump. I can jump!"

Me: Silence. I just went with it.

More restroom conversations

Also with Helen, but this time I was in the stall with her. She is sitting down and starting to take care of her business.

Helen: "I've got to go poo poo."

Me: "OK."

Helen (louder): "I've got to go poo poo."

Me: "I heard you. OK."

Helen: "POO POO. POO POO. POO POO. POO POO."

Me: "Helen, you don't need to talk about it. Just go to the bathroom."

Helen: "But my brothers laugh when I say 'Poo poo.'"

Me (trying to keep a straight face): "Well, I don't laugh, so you don't need to say that."

Helen: "But you're smiling . . . ."

OK. Then I laughed.

Memphis: The Road Trip

Did I mention that we drove to Memphis?

I think it may have qualified as our first successful road trip.

We left after school let out on Thursday, drove to Shreveport, and spent the night. We got up the next morning and drove to Little Rock, where we picked up Gramma and had lunch. Then we drove into Memphis Friday afternoon.

On the way back, we left Sunday afternoon and drove to Little Rock, where we all stayed the night. Charlie and Joe left Little Rock Monday morning with Gramma, because they were spending a week in Oklahoma with her. Will, Helen, Cort, and I drove from Little Rock to Houston on Monday. And made it home before 5pm. Over 1100 miles in 4 days of driving, with only one full day in between.

Now that we've actually had a successful road trip, here's what we learned:

• The number one rule in hotel selection is to get a hotel with a swimming pool. The kids look forward to it so much that they are actually excited to be driving to their destination. And it tires them out so they sleep well.
• If possible, do not stop to eat. Eating is a valuable activity that takes up time and keeps kids happy in the car. Use driving time to eat. Pack meals and snacks beforehand so you don't have to stop at all.
• Instead of taking breaks during the drive, go as hard as you can until you get there. Then use the extra time for the fun in the pool and hotel.
• If someone has to go to the bathroom, everyone gets out and goes unless they've gone within the last hour.
  
• Stay at a hotel that has free breakfast. Kids love buffets, and even a picky eater will like most of the options on a breakfast buffet. However, if you've got a long trip ahead, consider putting the buffet contents in the to-go cups provided for coffee and eating on the road, consistent with the above point.
  
• If you must stop for meals, stop at a fast food restaurant, let the kids run around ,and use the restroom while you order and wait for the food. Then take the food in the car and eat it while driving.
• If you have kids, like ours, who aren't necessarily placated by the DVD player, improvise. Download something to an ipod that they will like. We almost forgot Charlie and Joe were with us on the leg from Little Rock to Memphis, because they were watching an Astros game on their ipods.
  
• I never thought I would be one of those parents who rides in the back with their kids while their spouse sits up front alone and drives the car. (I used to make fun of moms who did that with their infants, and my kids are 4 and 7!) But truly, it makes all the difference.
  
• Having different sized decorative glass containers with candy like M&Ms, Skittles, etc. is a cute idea at a wedding reception. Taking bags of those with us and doling a single one out every 10 minutes that our kids were good in the car? Brilliant.
• Never underestimate the effectiveness of actually pulling the car over and dealing with a situation, usually a whining child. One whiner infects the whole bunch. But something about actually stopping a car--and then following through with taking a kid outside despite protests that now they'll straighten up--that sets the tone for the rest of the trip.
• Japanese restaurants where they cook in front of you--not sure whether we can manage to find one of those next to our hotel on every road trip, but it sure was the icing on the cake for the kids.

Really, it was such a great trip. Gives me hope for the Great American Road Trip With The Family one day.

Memphis: Family

An added bonus of the Memphis wedding weekend was that Cort's sister, Cindy, lives in Memphis! So we were able to spend a lot of time hanging out with family that we rarely see.

Cindy and her husband, Chris, were great hosts to our whole crew, plus some. Because on Saturday, her two kids and their families came in as well. (Her kids -- our nephews -- are just a few years younger than us, each with three kids of their own.) And Gramma was there as well.

On Saturday, we had 9 adults and 10 kids -- ages 12, 12, 9, 7, 7, 4, 4, 4, 2, and almost 1. At least, I think I got that right.

Thank goodness Aunt Cindy also has a swimming pool! And a really great playroom upstairs! Our kids spent 90% of their time in the pool. Will and Helen had fun with Evelyn and AJ, who are near their age. And Charlie and Joe were over the moon playing Cody, the only other boy (besides baby Simon), who was almost twice their age but was great to them.

I didn't grow up with gobs of cousins. My kids have them, but they are so far away (and many of them much older). It was so great to be able to get together. Hopefully it won't take a wedding to do it again.

Back row - AJ, Catelyn, Cody, Abby

Front row - Evelyn (too tired!), Helen, Joe, Charlie, Will
(Simon not present - he was napping)

Memphis: The Wedding

The weekend of June 4, our whole family attended a wedding in Memphis, Tennessee. Not just any wedding, but The Wedding of Peter and Claire.

Technically, I've known Peter since he was in high school (he might have even been in middle school the first time I met him - geesh that makes me feel old). But I only knew him a little bit. His father was a partner at my former law firm. I've always loved his whole family, but in reality Peter was in college, then law school, most of the time I was around them. I knew him only enough to be friendly.

Enter Claire. A couple of years ago, we attended Peter's parent's "chili bowl" party on New Year's Day. Peter was there with his girlfriend, Claire. Turns out Claire lived in Memphis, was a teacher, and loves, loves, loves kids. When she found out we had four of them, she wanted to know all about them. She was so interested in them that we decided, spur of the moment, to fly her down to Houston 3 weeks later to keep them for the weekend. A little crazy, yes. But, not surprisingly, they loved her. She's around, babysitting and cheering at ball games when in town, ever since.

So Peter asked Claire to marry him, which thrilled us because that meant CLAIRE IS MOVING TO HOUSTON!!! But then even possibly more exciting, Claire called a few days later and asked if Helen and Will would be the flower girl and ring bearer in their wedding.

Cort and I were absolutely honored to be included in the wedding, and quickly said yes and started figuring out how to get our brood to Memphis (more on that later).

But . . .

The problem was, Helen and Will didn't seem quite so honored. Will's trepidation was thankfully short-lived. I made the mistake of telling him that he would wear a tuxedo with a bow tie. He was indignant, because "bows are for girls." Luckily, we got that straightened out by showing him a picture of Cort in a tux.

Of course, Helen was more difficult. We told her she would wear a pretty dress, and she proclaimed that she would not wear a dress. After Will got his tux, she stated that she would be in the wedding only if she could wear a tux. At one point, she said that she would not carry flowers but would only carry a soccer ball. Claire's mom made the dress, and emailed a picture when she finished, which I showed to Helen hoping it would get her excited. It didn't. She said quite adamantly that she didn't like it and wouldn't wear it. I was prepared for the fact that when we got the dress from Claire's mom at the rehearsal, I would officially become the mom of the. rudest. child. ever.

But, when the time came, they were great. After a little trepidation, Will and Helen got their small part down during the rehearsal. Claire's mom gave us the dress--which really was absolutely beautiful, with all sorts of little detail that was much more impressive in person than via email--and Helen just stared and whispered, "I love it." She was very excited to be the only one with a beautiful white dress like Claire's.



And Will -- really, what is more adorable than a little boy in a size 3T tuxedo?



So the time came, and the bridesmaids started going in one by one. I stood with Will and Helen in front of a nervous Claire and her father, having told Will and Helen that they were Claire's "line leaders." I felt pretty confident that they would do just fine.

And that's when Helen started picking her nose.

I tried to be nonchalant, addressing the issue along with others: remember to hold hands, walk slowly, and don't pick your nose. She kept going. She was really digging. There were only a couple of bridesmaids left before it was their turn. Of all the things I pictured going wrong, this one had not occurred to me. So at that point, somewhat alarmingly, I told her that if she had a booger that was bothering her, I would get it out, but that she could not walk down the aisle with her finger up her nose! She didn't want to hear it, so she turned away from me and toward Claire and her dad. A few seconds later, Claire's dad calmed my fears: "Don't worry. She ate it."

And with that little event, which I like to think was my family's contribution to distracting Claire from any nervousness she may have felt about walking down the aisle, they were off.

They did wonderfully -- holding hands, walking slowly, Helen giving Peter a high five at the altar, and then going to sit down with the rest of our family.

All the kids were interested in the ceremony and the logistics of exactly when they were married and whether Claire's last name was now Tipps. Charlie and Joe had been asking for days whether the minister would say "You may kiss the bride," so that was a highlight. (After the kiss, Helen asked, "Did she want him to kiss her?) And afterwards, we went to the reception, where the Astros groom cake was worth the trip to Memphis for Joe and Charlie. The kids danced a bit, then went home and crashed.

But not before Joseph asked when we could see Claire again. When I told him that she would be living in Houston after she got back from her honeymoon and we could see her anytime, he was thrilled. As are we.


I know the wedding was about Peter and Claire, but I was pretty proud of my two adorable kiddos too.

*Photos courtesy of the sister of the groom, who annoyingly has the same camera we do but takes much better pictures with it.

Conversations in a public restroom

This is how it goes. Helen is in the restroom stall behind the closed door. I am outside waiting for her--meaning that I am face-to-face with other patrons as they come and go. Because we are usually in there longer than anyone else.

Helen: "Did ya hear that?"

Me: "Um, yes." or "No." or an ambivalent "Hmmm?" [I know where this is going every time, but I haven't yet figured out the response that will head it off.]

Helen: "I tooted!"

Me: "Mmmm." or "OK." or whatever else I can think of to mumble, still hoping that the conversation will somehow stop there. It doesn't.

Helen: "But I didn't say 'excuse me'!"

Me: "OK."

Helen: "Because I'm in the potty. And it's okay, we can toot in the potty. So we don't have to say 'excuse me' when we toot and we're in the potty."

Me: "OK. That's fine."

Helen: "But if we toot and we're not in the potty, we're supposed to say 'excuse me.'"

Me: "Yes."

Helen: "We can say 'excuse me.' But we can't say, 'Excuse me, you're biting my butt.'"

Me: "Right."

Helen: "Because then we can't watch Madagascar any more."

Me: "Right. Are you finished yet?"

I have had this exact conversation at least eight times over the past few weeks. The only thing that changes is how many people overhear us and how many of them start laughing.

Summer games

It's officially summer! Of course, in Houston, that means it's unbearably hot and humid.

Luckily, when you have kids, it doesn't matter how hot it is -- they can always have fun!

We throw the schedule to the wind and let the kids stay up a little later. Sometimes even past 8pm. (I know. We are wild and crazy.)

We've been walking to restaurants for dinner lately. It's not quite so hot in the evening, and I love the fact that there are fun restaurants within walking distance. And the kids love the fact that they can play in lawn sprinklers on the walk home. It's just so . . . summer.

Once we get home, they've invented a new game that must be played every time we reach our house: Dodge Croc. This involves everyone taking off their crocs, lining up on either side of the sidewalk, and commencing a game of dodgeball--except by throwing the crocs instead of a ball. This is not as easy (but far more hilarious) than you would think. Those crocs aren't easy to control! No telling what our neighbors think as we all run around throwing shoes at each other.

Ah, summer. I'm glad you're here.

My little foodies

Today was the first day of a summer camp that required me to pack a lunch for the boys. There are six total weeks of lunch-making in my future.

In general, I don't "do" lunch. While HISD lunches are not great fare, I am glad to have my kids eat school lunch if it means I don't have to make it for them.

And what gets me more than anything is the complaining about lunches I make. My view is that if I'm going to sacrifice my time to make you a meal, there will be no complaints. My view is not my kids' view, unfortunately.

So this year I told the boys to make a list of acceptable lunch items. I promised to put three items in every lunch, and that at least one item will be from their respective lists. And in exchange, I extracted a "no complaints" guarantee.

Here were their lists:

Joe - red beans and rice, edamame and garbanzo bean salad, spaghetti, ravioli, carrots and celery with hummus, grapes (purple or green), blueberries, apples (cut up), kiwi, lentils, almonds, and pineapple tidbits

Charlie - gazpacho, PB&J sandwich, chickpea soup, spaghetti, penne pasta, pasta salad, edamame and garbanzo bean salad, grapes, peaches, mandarin oranges, salad, celery, apples, applesauce, kiwi, yogurt, diced pears, mixed fruit, pineapple

Not bad, huh? So far, no complaints either.